A Lesson to Be Learned

Wow!

Have you ever been so emotionally overcome by a topic that it takes you breath away?

That is how I feel right now. I'm not even sure how to begin.

I have always had a driving desire to look for the best in people, needing to believe they are honest and trustworthy. I have often been know to help others, even ignoring my own comfort zone while doing this.

WELL NO LONGER!!!!!!!!

Please, let me explain......................Events have happened recently to make me realize it is a BIG MISTAKE for me to go on being so trusting.

Not everyone is nice, trustworthy, and honest, even if they carry that appearance. Many people who want, even need, help are really just takers. They take! Take!! TAke!!! TAKe!!!! TAKE!!!!! These takers do not care who they hurt or how they hurt them. The only thing that matters to these people is that they are getting something out of the situation. They think only of their own needs.

Recently I reached out to help a family. The parents were unable to provide for their own children. I knew them. I should have thought twice. But I was truly thinking of the children's needs. I provided housing, food, use of my car, a nice neighborhood, phone, computer---ended up being physically hit and walked out on. Left me with their mess and bills.

The experience has left me hurt, scarred, and even scared. The result for me was feeling broken-----emotionally, physically, spiritually, and financially.

I use to be a person who slept with the front door unlocked, even open so fresh air could come in. Now I have become a person who will not even stay alone in my own home unless all the doors and windows are locked. I have been truly hurt and very upset since the events played out.

Here’s hoping I have let this happen for the last time. Notice, I said "hoping". It is not in my makeup to stop helping others in all ways possible for me, small or large. I just have to learn to sort out the users from the good people. Also, I have to learn to protect myself while helping others.

When I help others in the future I will expect something in return.

I expect anyone I choose to help to:
*be honest
*live up to their promises

*respect me

*have a kind word
*pay the favors forward

My goals for this blog:
*help myself and others with suggestions on how to be good judges of human character and sincerity.
*protect ourselves from being taken advantage of while helping others
*develop the strength to tell the users "Don’t even come to my funeral" because they "have drained us already"
*share with others our experiences of helping those in need, only to get bruised in the process

Feel free to add your comments or email me at dontcome2myfuneral@yahoo.com

Please include stories, events---NOT names or dates. I am very aware of the need to protect the privacy of ALL characters in the stories.

Many thanks.

Wishing you positive people experiences in your futures,

Fun-eral